#80 - TOTD: On Comparing Marriage

Mufti Menk tweeted,

Never compare your marriage with that of others. Each marriage has its own peculiarities and challenges. Comparing with those we presume are happier is not a solution but rather a grave error.

It's a very good reminder to me. I guess, the best is to be grateful. 

Insya Allah.

#71 - TOTD: On Saving Marriage

By Mufti Ismail Menk.

If marriages were meant to be broken due to a mistake made by a spouse, nobody would be spared divorce. A spouse is meant to be the strongest pillar of support during times of difficulty and hardship. Instead of finding reason to hold a marriage together, today we tend to look for reason to break it. Sometimes we overlook a thousand points of goodness in our spouses due to ten weaknesses. Spouses who have assisted each other through errors and hardships are mostly much happier than ever before. It is those who refuse to be helped and continue repeating unacceptable behaviour who compel their spouses to rightfully consider leaving. May the Almighty save our marriages in this age of divorce for the minutest reason. Ameen.

Ameen.

I want to be the strongest pillar of support for En. Suami. That's all I want to be. Insya Allah.

#67 - TOTD: On names and marriage

Mufti Ismail Menk tweeted on these 2 subjects and I think I should share them with all of you.

On naming our children:

When naming our children we should ensure a beautiful meaning rather than an exotic sounding name void of meaning. Some parents ignorantly choose names that have a bad meaning just because it sounds good. The child then grows up being called a bad name. To avoid distortions, it is wise to choose a name that will be pronounced with ease by the community the child will grow up in.

On marriage:

A growing number of young do not realize that marriage is not a perpetual honeymoon. Marriage is a great sacrifice and a major adjustment is required for it to be blissful. What is the point of looking good together according to the world when the whole house is in disarray. In marriage, humble beginnings result in more appreciated relationships that last longer in most cases.

Something for us to ponder. 

Till then.